Helping Children Cope with Stress ①　To adults,childhood can seem to be happy and free from worries. But children still experience stress.Things like school and their social life can sometimes create pressures that are too difficult for them to deal with.While they may not talk about their troubles,they do want their parents to reach out and help them.②　Children deal with stress in both healthy and unhealthy ways.As a parent,you can't protect your children from stress,but you can help them develop healthy ways to cope with stress and solve everyday problems. By doing so,you not only help your children handle their current stresses,but also prepare them to deal with future stresses.Here are a few tips for you.③　When you nice that something is upsetting your child,you need to tell your child about it. If you can, name the feeling you think your child is experiencing.This shouldn't sound like blame. It is just a casual observation, and you’re interested in hearing more about your child's concern. Be sympathetic and show that you care and want to understand.④　Also ask your children to tell you what’s wrong. Listen attentively and calmly--with interest, patience, openness, and caring. Don't hurry to make judgments. Do not blame or criticize your child for what he or she has done. The idea is to listen to your child's concerns and feelings. Try to get the whole story by patiently asking questions. Take your time. And let your child take his or her time, too.⑤　Remember to be patient.As a parent,it hurts to see your child unhappy or stressed. Butyou should not try to solve every problem for your child.Instead, try to help your child grow into a good problem-solver-a child who knows how to deal with life's ups and downs,express feelings in words,calm down when needed,and never give in to difficulties.